Two Men, Two Separate Decisions

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I've been in a relationship off and on now for 4 months.  The boy is treating me alright but it's been hard.  Recently an ex-lover has reappeared.  The only reason we broke it off was because of distance.  I find myself talking to him more and waiting for his text.  The problem I have is we still have distance.  What should I do?  Cut it off with the in town boy or cast my luck with the out of town boy?
 
love
 
uptown girl




Hello Upton Girl:


It appears that you have a few things to take care of before you think about this "ex lover." When you are in an unhappy relationship it is easy to have a skewed perspective on other interests. If you believe that your current relationship is not what you are looking for or need, you should end it. Don't let "ex lover" be a factor in your breakup. It is plausible that after you end things with your boyfriend, this other guy could work out. But you have to realize that everything looks better from far away. Long distance relationships are do-able and can in fact be a great thing. 


But "ex-lover" on the back burner for now and take care of your current relationship. Once that is resolved, approach "ex-lover" and see what he thinks about you and him. 


Just because these are the two guys in your life at the moment, doesn't mean they are your only options. 


Stay strong and deal with one issue at a time. 


-Edith

By Trial and Error: Learning from one another

Life's plans never go as planned. For some, this appears to be a blessing, to others it is merely heartache. Amongst the coming and going of life, there are always questions. There are questions about the way we interact with one another and what words we should say.

For this very reason I have created this blog. Though very different from one another, we share similar hardships, similar trials, and similar experiences. 

Asking Edith is a place to culminate these experiences and to help each other. It is an easy process. 

1. Email your question to askingedith@gmail.com. All stories remain anonymous. No names will be used, ever. So you don't have to worry about disclosing your identity. 

2. Edith will answer you back within 48 hours with advice. 

3. There is no particular topic that is taboo. Don't be shy, just ask.